And all is right with the world

[ebonlock]

The sun is shining, the birds are chirping and I got a decent night's sleep last night. Life is good. I think my chipper mood is at least due in part to a lovely evening last night. I so adore having an excuse to spend time with the lively, witty, charming folks who make up my social group. I also received hugs aplenty, which always makes me happy. I must remember to wear my velvet tops more often, it encourages petting as well *G*

Of course how can an evening go wrong when it starts with the delightful cyranocyrano? That is, of course, rhetorical. And then of course there was the long anticipated kirbyk sighting, it really had been far too long since we'd had an excuse to see one another. Oh and the Chrises were in attendance as well and their usual warm and charming selves. The presentation itself of the new Everguard system was impressive. I'm afraid a good portion of it went over my head, but I think I gleaned the important stuff and will send a link to our IT guys to see if they'd be interested, or know of anyone who will. I have a very good feeling about this endeavor, I really do.

It was also nice to make a few plans for Saturday with the enchanting tersa as well, though fatigue drove her away far too early last night. I get to spend some quality time with her tomorrow, though, and that makes me very happy. And getting to spend some time with h0h0 tonight is sort of icing on the cake.

It's always surprising to me how a week can start off poorly and then end up so beautifully. Life is funny, and strange, and sublime sometimes.

Crunches: 90
State of Englightenment: Moderate

Comments

[aelfsciene.livejournal.com]

Well. I do tend to feel things very very strongly, and this seems to affect everyone around me, so I can't entirely blame people. And I did go through a period of a few months when I was angry at anything and everything, which is when things started to be thrown in my face, so I would guess it has something to do with overcompensation--"Oh god, she's angry again, it'll never stop," when I'm more or less back to normal. I blow up quickly and come back down quickly, too.

But. I don't like the feeling that I always have to be shiny-happy-cheerful, either, and that's part of why there are people I just don't hang out with much anymore. It's too bloody stressful, and when I'm stressed, I'm on edge, and more likely to get upset over things that I could normally brush off, which puts them on edge, and well. I'm much happier with my currently regular (well, as such things go--I seem to be back in butterfly mode, like during college) social crowd(s), which is better all around.

If nothing else, I'm certainly much more aware of my moods, and try to have some idea of what they're doing to people around me, so it's not all bad. Swift kicks tend to do me a lot of good, though they're not at all fun when administered unkindly.

As for my temper, you've never seen me angry at you, clearly (though I don't think I have been, in memory, so that's good). When I'm hurt by someone, I hurt back. I'm not as bad about this as I used to be, but my gut reaction is to lash out, which just creates more badness all around. Something else I'm working on, and think I have fairly decent control over these days, but then I haven't had to deal with someone really hurting me for awhile (v.g.). ^_~

But. As it is, I'm not sure I feel close enough to anyone to really dump on them/rant at them/whenever, when I'm upset. The butterfly thing, again, which is fun, but not always entirely satisfying. And also the "I feel things SO STRONGLY that everyone else gets to feel this way too," thing, which is something I don't have a lot of control over. I'm emotional, apparently in ways that other people pick things up fairly easily. I don't know where the line is there, where it's my fault, something I should fix, and other people's issues, which I'm inadvertently feeding.

Why am I so much more introspective/open here than my own damn page? ^_

[ex-lucianus799.livejournal.com]

I *like* that you feel things strongly. It makes you more real to me, and more trustworthy, than almost anyone else I know. I like that you're aware of your moods and their effects. It's something I don't do as well as I would like -- it takes me time to figure out *what* I'm feeling, much less why.

And you're right: it's a good call to not bother hanging out much with People That Can't Deal. Certain people lash out at anyone and everyone when they're angry at something that they're not willing to address. Some people don't know how to handle their anger, and it eats them up inside. I don't care to be around these people when they're stressed, though they might otherwise be decent company.

So if you're ever angry at me, I don't doubt that I probably deserve it. See, you actually TELL PEOPLE about the things that piss you off, but beyond that, you get angry at the SITUATION if it's a first offense. Most people who have a temper are far less forgiving. So you are an admirable person, in these and many ways.

Fix what you want to, and other peoples' issues really aren't your problem -- unless they're willing to face themselves and you've made a commitment to stand by them while they do.

It's a safe place here. There's dialog among friends who understand the difference between acceptance and codependence.

[aelfsciene.livejournal.com]

I'm blushing but look rather pleased, too. Thank you.

I'm afraid I did go through a period of lashing out at everyone when I was angry, though I'm definitely out of it now, thank god. I think what's most frustrating is that I seem to be unforgivable to some people now, that anytime I get even a tiny bit upset over anything, I'm going back to that total-constant-anger phase, and it's just not true. Just not worth trying to redeem myself anymore, I guess, but I'll tell myself it's their loss. ^_^

It's probably a good thing, overall, that I've never been good at holding things inside for too long; I'm a firm believer that it only makes things worse in the long run. Short sharp shock for me, please, not the long slow burn.

Anyway. I do really appreciate being able to rant a little, air some of what's been bugging me, and get some reinforcement that I'm doing good work on the emotional front. Thank you all, a lot