I *like* that you feel things strongly. It makes you more real to me, and more trustworthy, than almost anyone else I know. I like that you're aware of your moods and their effects. It's something I don't do as well as I would like -- it takes me time to figure out *what* I'm feeling, much less why.
And you're right: it's a good call to not bother hanging out much with People That Can't Deal. Certain people lash out at anyone and everyone when they're angry at something that they're not willing to address. Some people don't know how to handle their anger, and it eats them up inside. I don't care to be around these people when they're stressed, though they might otherwise be decent company.
So if you're ever angry at me, I don't doubt that I probably deserve it. See, you actually TELL PEOPLE about the things that piss you off, but beyond that, you get angry at the SITUATION if it's a first offense. Most people who have a temper are far less forgiving. So you are an admirable person, in these and many ways.
Fix what you want to, and other peoples' issues really aren't your problem -- unless they're willing to face themselves and you've made a commitment to stand by them while they do.
It's a safe place here. There's dialog among friends who understand the difference between acceptance and codependence.
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Date: 2002-05-13 10:47 am (UTC)And you're right: it's a good call to not bother hanging out much with People That Can't Deal. Certain people lash out at anyone and everyone when they're angry at something that they're not willing to address. Some people don't know how to handle their anger, and it eats them up inside. I don't care to be around these people when they're stressed, though they might otherwise be decent company.
So if you're ever angry at me, I don't doubt that I probably deserve it. See, you actually TELL PEOPLE about the things that piss you off, but beyond that, you get angry at the SITUATION if it's a first offense. Most people who have a temper are far less forgiving. So you are an admirable person, in these and many ways.
Fix what you want to, and other peoples' issues really aren't your problem -- unless they're willing to face themselves and you've made a commitment to stand by them while they do.
It's a safe place here. There's dialog among friends who understand the difference between acceptance and codependence.