Yes, you've told me that you care about me many times before, however affection is not a commodity to be stored away like money in a savings account. One doesn't accrue interest, nor have I been keeping a tally of said affectionate comments. It is an ongoing process that cannot be set aside by the comment, "But I've already told you how I feel about you!" Feelings change, some of us need reassurance from time to time.
The fact that you're busy with other things holds no deeper meaning than exactly that: unless I'm standing in front of the t.v. in skimpy lingerie and you continue to play said game, or watch a sporting event with the grunt, "You're blocking the t.v." At that point, despite former protestations of affection, I am likely to be hurt, and feel unloved and unattractive.
Does this mean that you can't do anything that you deem important without fear of reprisals on my part? Not at all, indeed there will be many times I'll have things that I want to do, that I feel are important or enjoyable and I will expect the freedom to be able to do so. However, should you ever say to me, "I need to talk to you now." I promise to set aside whatever project, game, or t.v. show I was engrossed in and listen. I expect that at some point you will be willing to do the same for me.
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timeasmymeasure
Rebuttal
Date: 2002-09-13 12:18 pm (UTC)Ahem, allow me to counter with:
Yes, you've told me that you care about me many times before, however affection is not a commodity to be stored away like money in a savings account.
One doesn't accrue interest, nor have I been keeping a tally of said affectionate comments. It is an ongoing process that cannot be set aside by the comment, "But I've already told you how I feel about you!" Feelings change, some of us need reassurance from time to time.
The fact that you're busy with other things holds no deeper meaning than exactly that: unless I'm standing in front of the t.v. in skimpy lingerie and you continue to play said game, or watch a sporting event with the grunt, "You're blocking the t.v." At that point, despite former protestations of affection, I am likely to be hurt, and feel unloved and unattractive.
Does this mean that you can't do anything that you deem important without fear of reprisals on my part? Not at all, indeed there will be many times I'll have things that I want to do, that I feel are important or enjoyable and I will expect the freedom to be able to do so. However, should you ever say to me, "I need to talk to you now." I promise to set aside whatever project, game, or t.v. show I was engrossed in and listen. I expect that at some point you will be willing to do the same for me.