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ebonlockGreat, busy, hectic, fun, productive weekend. Got my taxes done, yay! Got a reasonable return this year and splurged a bit on Amazon and Amazon UK to pick up a few odds and ends I've been waiting for a long while. Just so happens that March 1, Blake's 7 season 1 is finally being released in the UK and guess who preordered herself a copy. Damn I love having an all-regions DVD player.
Work was good, though pretty much what I expected results-wise. I got to see "Fight Club" and was somewhat unsatisfied by the final twist in the flick. It had been heavily foreshadowed, though ultimately the way it had been filmed I just kept mentally muttering, "There's no way it could work like that, there just isn't." Anyway, then L- surprised me with the full HK version of "Vampire Effect" or "The Twin Effect" as it's apparently called over there. Getting to see the whole thing and subbed rather than dubbed was nice. It didn't make a whole lot more sense, but it's still a very fun film.
Sunday I got to bed way too late as I stayed up until about 2 watching "The Lion in Winter". Why don't they make films like that any more? Now that is an Oscar worthy film, when I compare it to most of what's up for one this year...well, enough said. Anyway got up a bit later than I wanted to and started a day of chores. Groceries got bought, laundry got done, rooms got vaccuumed, floors were swept, beds were made and most importantly, the lawns were mowed. I quickly came to the conclusion that a machete would've been more useful out back after I'd let things go for a couple of months, but I stubborned my way through it and ended up winded and a bit sore afterwards. But what a workout.
Then I lit some candles and tried dancing the Goddess choreography for my gods in honor of Imbolc. It was amazing how much of a difference it made in my dancing when I let go of my own expectations and desires and simply danced it for Them. It was flawless, absolutely perfect and effortless. Don't know if I'll ever achieve that again, but it was so nice to know it's within my capabilities. Played around with my zills for a bit to a Tarkan song after that, then ran Goddess again just to make sure I had it. I'm sure we'll go through it tonight as well in class, but a little extra practice never hurts.
After that I took a shower to help relax my sore muscles and worked on some crafting for a bit. Meant to pop in the tape that "Wire in the Blood" was on, but couldn't remember if it was the one that was lying on the floor now broken (don't know how that happened), so decided to just channel surf until Aelf got home. She got in much later than we'd hoped, and had a good deal to do herself, so no DS9 :( Ah well, it did let me get to bed nice and early last night which was a pleasant change.
Ok, so I've seen all these commercials for this "relationship service" eHarmony, and I got curious. I'm not looking for anybody, mind you, but as a part-time Yenta I find most of these services to be of at least academic interest. So I filled out the huge questionnaire (set aside some time for it if you intend to do this yourself), and set my limits for possible matches to 30 miles of my area. I figured that was pretty reasonable.
So I finish this huge thing and go looking for my perfect matches only to discover that I'd come up completely empty. *sigh* Think I'll extend the search area and see if I have any better luck. Now I'm assuming that the cost issue comes into this if you should actually get matches. I'm imagining some sort of fee in order to get contact info regarding your soulmate. If so that's where this experiment will undoubtedly end. That is if there are any matches to be found, and given my rather split-personality responses to many of the questions (what do you do when both extremes apply to your nature?), I wouldn't be surprised if nobody matches up.
Updates when they become available.
Work was good, though pretty much what I expected results-wise. I got to see "Fight Club" and was somewhat unsatisfied by the final twist in the flick. It had been heavily foreshadowed, though ultimately the way it had been filmed I just kept mentally muttering, "There's no way it could work like that, there just isn't." Anyway, then L- surprised me with the full HK version of "Vampire Effect" or "The Twin Effect" as it's apparently called over there. Getting to see the whole thing and subbed rather than dubbed was nice. It didn't make a whole lot more sense, but it's still a very fun film.
Sunday I got to bed way too late as I stayed up until about 2 watching "The Lion in Winter". Why don't they make films like that any more? Now that is an Oscar worthy film, when I compare it to most of what's up for one this year...well, enough said. Anyway got up a bit later than I wanted to and started a day of chores. Groceries got bought, laundry got done, rooms got vaccuumed, floors were swept, beds were made and most importantly, the lawns were mowed. I quickly came to the conclusion that a machete would've been more useful out back after I'd let things go for a couple of months, but I stubborned my way through it and ended up winded and a bit sore afterwards. But what a workout.
Then I lit some candles and tried dancing the Goddess choreography for my gods in honor of Imbolc. It was amazing how much of a difference it made in my dancing when I let go of my own expectations and desires and simply danced it for Them. It was flawless, absolutely perfect and effortless. Don't know if I'll ever achieve that again, but it was so nice to know it's within my capabilities. Played around with my zills for a bit to a Tarkan song after that, then ran Goddess again just to make sure I had it. I'm sure we'll go through it tonight as well in class, but a little extra practice never hurts.
After that I took a shower to help relax my sore muscles and worked on some crafting for a bit. Meant to pop in the tape that "Wire in the Blood" was on, but couldn't remember if it was the one that was lying on the floor now broken (don't know how that happened), so decided to just channel surf until Aelf got home. She got in much later than we'd hoped, and had a good deal to do herself, so no DS9 :( Ah well, it did let me get to bed nice and early last night which was a pleasant change.
Ok, so I've seen all these commercials for this "relationship service" eHarmony, and I got curious. I'm not looking for anybody, mind you, but as a part-time Yenta I find most of these services to be of at least academic interest. So I filled out the huge questionnaire (set aside some time for it if you intend to do this yourself), and set my limits for possible matches to 30 miles of my area. I figured that was pretty reasonable.
So I finish this huge thing and go looking for my perfect matches only to discover that I'd come up completely empty. *sigh* Think I'll extend the search area and see if I have any better luck. Now I'm assuming that the cost issue comes into this if you should actually get matches. I'm imagining some sort of fee in order to get contact info regarding your soulmate. If so that's where this experiment will undoubtedly end. That is if there are any matches to be found, and given my rather split-personality responses to many of the questions (what do you do when both extremes apply to your nature?), I wouldn't be surprised if nobody matches up.
Updates when they become available.
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Date: 2004-02-09 09:29 am (UTC)Heh ... I'm in the same boat. Ebay and Amazon have both benefited from my "tax refund rush" ... although I suppose I shoudl really have waited 'til the money arrived, eh? ;)
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Date: 2004-02-09 09:33 am (UTC)LOL, I should've done that as well, but I felt the need for a little reward for getting mine done nice and early. And I've been *so* good for the past few months...and, well it's B7 on DVD for the first time ever, how could I possibly resist that?
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Date: 2004-02-09 09:38 am (UTC)Me, I got Angel season 3 (to be released tomorrow). Plus bought some artwork off ebay from an artist friend of mine (although I will admit that two of the three are gifts for others).
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Date: 2004-02-09 09:41 am (UTC)Blake's 7, darkest sci-fi series I've ever seen with one of the all time greatest anti-hero characters ever invented. The series also boasted the most shocking, unexpected, and thoroughly perfect endings I've ever seen.
Me, I got Angel season 3 (to be released tomorrow). Plus bought some artwork off ebay from an artist friend of mine (although I will admit that two of the three are gifts for others).
You're far more generous than I *G* I need to get Angel S1, as I lost all interest in the show after Doyle got killed off. And now that the actor who played him is dead, that's the last chance I'm going to get to see him :(
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Date: 2004-02-09 09:58 am (UTC)Am also collecting the DS9 DVDs ... off ebay mostly. Cheaper that way. Heh.
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Date: 2004-02-09 10:44 am (UTC)I have a friend who works at Best Buy and can get me a very nice deal on the DVDs. He actually gave me seasons 4-6 for Xmas this year. I hadn't realized how much I missed the series really until I started watching them again. It brought back a lot of memories from my fandom days with the show as well. Gods I was such a Trekkie it wasn't even funny *G*
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Date: 2004-02-09 11:46 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-09 12:10 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-09 12:48 pm (UTC)Did you also find a lot of the questions pretty repetitive? And they didn't offer an awful lot of choices under religion. I also found that most/least part really hard to answer in what I felt to be an honest and telling way.
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Date: 2004-02-09 03:33 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-09 03:54 pm (UTC)I did eventually wind up with some matches, but gave up on it shortly when things with D. seemed to be taking off.
I may go back and try it again, but I had a real problem with the fact that they did not have any fields with which to enter information about physical disabilities. I have fibromyalgia. It is very important that anyone I date understand and accept this. Imagine if I was I was, say, deaf, or in a wheelchair. To not tell any potential suitor these things up front seems to be false advertising, IMO.
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Date: 2004-02-09 04:01 pm (UTC)Mmm, that is an excellent point, indeed there seemed to be very little in the way of physical information that they wanted you to share at all. I mean it was mostly value judgments ("I look nice" or "Appearance is important to me"). I find this whole process kind of interesting, but I fail to see how it could possibly lead to some sort of long term relationship.
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Date: 2004-02-09 10:22 pm (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-02-10 08:57 am (UTC)good for you
Date: 2004-02-09 08:04 pm (UTC)Sorry, and good luck with eHarmony.
Re: good for you
Date: 2004-02-10 08:59 am (UTC)And I managed to miss your one phone call last night while I was in class. I thought I heard my phone over the music, but we were right in the middle of learning a new routine, sorry!
Sorry, and good luck with eHarmony.
No need to wish me luck, I was just satisfying my curiosity on that front. I don't really think their system is particularly useful myself. I'd have a hard time recommending them to friends I'm afraid.
eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-10 04:05 pm (UTC)I didn't get any initial matches, but now they're literally giving me WAY TOO FREAKING MANY.
Sigh. I guess that's better than the alternative.
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-11 08:19 am (UTC)I didn't get any initial matches, but now they're literally giving me WAY TOO FREAKING MANY.
Sigh. I guess that's better than the alternative.
I got a bunch yesterday myself, but the question is what do you think of the quality of the matches they're finding for you? I mean the whole reason I used myself in this experiment was to judge the relative quality of the service in regards to accuracy. Now maybe this was a mistake (I am *so* not the norm when it comes to dating) but I've been utterly disappointed by what they've selected.
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-11 08:22 am (UTC)But yeah, there's a lot of chaff there. A lot of closes. It's just the nature of the beast, I guess. I also really don't like the extremely wide age range. I really don't have any interest in dating a 22 year old (way too immature -- I know I was a goddamn idiot at 22, and I doubt I have any reason to think other 22 year olds are better than I was.)
:-)
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-11 08:28 am (UTC)But yeah, there's a lot of chaff there. A lot of closes. It's just the nature of the beast, I guess. I also really don't like the extremely wide age range. I really don't have any interest in dating a 22 year old (way too immature -- I know I was a goddamn idiot at 22, and I doubt I have any reason to think other 22 year olds are better than I was.)
:-)
Perhaps it's just me then, I mean Jesus I got all marketing types and sales if you can believe that. They all describe themselves as "athletic" and "fit", like I care about that. I would be curious as to know where I went wrong in my responses, though. Ah well, I'm glad it's working for you and apparently for a bunch of others as well if the commercials you see everywhere are any indication. :)
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-11 08:34 am (UTC)Look, I know you're not the shallow type, but there's plenty of women who are; after going through the whole eHarmony "structured communication process" I'd get matches closed with regularity after they saw my picture for the first time.
Yeah, attraction is a key part of a successful relationship, but I didn't even get a chance!
Oh well. These days, I'm a seasoned eHarmony warrior. I know roughly if and when a match'll be closed by the woman just based on her profile and the answers she's given me in the rest of the process.
Mmm. Tasty the cynicism!
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-11 09:12 am (UTC)Look, I know you're not the shallow type, but there's plenty of women who are; after going through the whole eHarmony "structured communication process" I'd get matches closed with regularity after they saw my picture for the first time.
So basically it is kind of a meatmarket then, in much the same way as any other "relationship service"? How sad. Somehow I was kind of expecting something...more from it, if that makes any sense.
Yeah, attraction is a key part of a successful relationship, but I didn't even get a chance!
Which is definitely their loss. Still, it does make me wonder if that's not part of the reason I avoid dating myself like the plague. I don't like being judged, and even less so when it comes down to superficial things like am I thin enough, are my cheekbones high enough, etc.
Oh well. These days, I'm a seasoned eHarmony warrior. I know roughly if and when a match'll be closed by the woman just based on her profile and the answers she's given me in the rest of the process.
Mmm. Taste the cynicism!
Sounds like you've got a good strategy going, and I commend you for having the fortitude to stick it out long enough to create one. Personally, if I were actually looking for dates via this kind of format I think I'd have given up long, long ago.
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-11 09:19 am (UTC)And the other thing I like is that for every match where I go, "damn that chick is hot" after I start asking her questions, I can find out pretty quickly if she's dumb. (I can't stand dumb dates. Boooooring.) That's definitely a net plus.
And the other thing I like is that eHarmony does sort of give you the premise of being "broadly compatible" on various interests; that usually gives you something to break the ice up.
You know, I really ought to write up an entry in my LJ about specifically what I like and what I loathe about eHarmony...
Hmmm.
There's a dating blog I've been reading in the Saint Paul Pioneer Press. The voice of the author reminds me a lot of you in RL. Independent, sassy and not afraid to speak her mind.
http://www.twincities.com/mld/twincities/6030176.htm
If you're feeling bored or a little down, this ought to cheer you up and make you smile.
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-11 09:29 am (UTC)Hmmm.
I'd highly encourage it, as both your friend and former Yenta I'd be fascinated to read it!
There's a dating blog I've been reading in the Saint Paul Pioneer Press. The voice of the author reminds me a lot of you in RL. Independent, sassy and not afraid to speak her mind.
http://www.twincities.com/mld/twincities/6030176.htm
If you're feeling bored or a little down, this ought to cheer you up and make you smile.
I'll have to give that a read, sounds cool. Though it seems these days that "bored" is not something I have much time to be *G*
BTW, you should let me know which nights you have free while you're out here. I'd very much like to claim one for dinner and catching up!
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-11 09:32 am (UTC)I have a free night on Sunday the 22, and I'll be in SF all week -- so if you want to venture up to the Fog City, we could go somewhere. I don't think I'll be super busy in the evenings.
And then the show ends on Friday, and I'll be staying through until Monday March 1. So Friday, Saturday and Sunday + Monday during the day I'll be around too.
I think some of those nights are hockey nights though. I don't know. I'll have to consult my personal scheduler, LAM. :-)
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-11 10:07 am (UTC)I think some of those nights are hockey nights though. I don't know. I'll have to consult my personal scheduler, LAM. :-)
Hmm, well I have a performance the 28th, but I think I'm free the 27th and 29th at this point. I'd be happy to keep either open for you. Consult your scheduler and get back to me and we'll firm these plans up :)
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-12 09:52 am (UTC)However, it sounds like one of them old-fashioned rules applies to eHarmony and the like: The results of the pursuit are similar to the effort and energy a person puts into the pursuit.
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-12 10:33 am (UTC)Can't really disagree with that. But the burning question here is, have you been given any matches, and do any of them actually seem to fit your tastes/requirements? I think I'm up to 5 now and none of them sounds particularly close.
Re: eHarmony
Date: 2004-02-12 11:16 am (UTC)